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Published on February 1st, 2013 | by Kelie Kyser


4 Tips to Get Closer to Where You Want to Be

If you introduced your six year old self to the adult you‘ve become today – would she be impressed?

Have you accomplished the things the two of you imagined possible years ago?  Would she be proud of you or disappointed that you didn’t follow the plan?  Would she be awestruck by your dogged attempt to realize the dream? Or would she agree with the rationale behind the deferral?

At some point in life a parent, teacher, or peer took stock in your reverie no matter how delusional it was.

Did you afford yourself the same courtesy?

If not, it’s never too late.

“What do you want to be when you grow up?”

Thoroughly consider this question and 4 things that are sure to bring you closer to where you want be:

1.      Let someone else cut in front of the line.

This is absolutely contrary to everything we’ve learned in grade school and carried with us into our adult function. We’ve been conditioned to line up and patiently wait our turn with the expectation that the next highly coveted object is ours for the taking.  But in the real world, often without warning, someone else appears out of nowhere and steals the (opportunity, career, or boyfriend) we so longingly desired.

Don’t count it as a loss.  Let them go first and have it because  whatever “it” is wasn’t meant for you.

A missed opportunity may ultimately be a blessing in disguise.

Perhaps that promotion you rightfully deserved was given to the uncouth co-worker who cut ahead of the line.  However, it’s possible this happened so that you have ample time to adequately groom yourself for the next offering – appointment as her supervisor.

Good things come to those who wait – even if it seems the waiting is in vain.

2.      Find out the color of your parachute.

During a meeting in 1968, one of the last men standing at an organization headed for ruin asked a profound question of those who had not yet bailed out of the company. “What Color is Your Parachute?”

Two years later Richard Bolles bailed out of the company himself and wrote the first edition of a now 42 year anthology deemed by Time magazine as one of the most influential non-fiction books written in English since 1923.

What Color Is Your Parachute is for those who are tired of settling for unfulfilling careers and nauseated by the prospect of one more disappointing job search.  Parachute is unique in that the author actually researches the economy, market trends, and statistics every year producing fresh relevant material.  The methodology permits Bolles to offer the reader a holistic approach to career transition.

The author challenges the unemployed to stop applying for jobs and start seeking nirvana.  At one point boldly suggesting job hunters literally pursue the organization (read: drive to the company and chat with the Executive) rather than lying in wait for the next posting advertised to the masses.  He vetoes hunting the proverbial “market” for a job and insists that career changers seriously entertain the possibility of fulfilling a lifelong dream.

3.      Know when to ride out The Dip.

Google Seth Godin if you don’t know who he is already.  You won’t be sorry if you’re looking for short answers to big questions.  Godin wrote a very insightful little book (it’s less than 80 pages).

If you’re like me, you may find it difficult to know when it’s time to throw in the towel.

Historically we’ve been taught that winners never give up.  Yet, Godin counters this theory affirming, “Winners quit fast, often, and without guilt.”  If you are pondering whether or not to hang in there – read this book.   Sometimes it pays to ride out a situation; however, it’s likely the “situation” is keeping you from something better.

4.      Don’t listen.

Do yourself a favor and step out on faith.  Don’t listen to your inner insecure girl or other people delaying your intellectual and spiritual growth.  This may be hard to do at first because most of us seek approval from others and indiscriminately listen to their advice.  But the truth is that your happiness may never strategically align with theirs and that is perfectly okay.

Others may genuinely have your best interest at heart; but YOU are the person who is left to live with the “ever after”.   [ Tweet This! ]

You’re also the only one who has to contend with your six year old self, so make her proud.

February is already here!  What are you doing to get closer to where you want to be by the end of 2013?


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is a reporting authority. Her talent lies in the ability to communicate succinct messages that are rich with information to a diverse audience. The Denver native holds a bachelor’s degree in communication and a master’s degree in organizational leadership.

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